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Its that time of year again, where we turn our thoughts towards our hopes and desires for the fresh New Year. But how quickly do you think they will run into the sand? What happened to last years grand ideas? If you need a bit of help following your desires, try using this brief guide to Gary Craig's Palace of Possibilities. Much under-used, it is a goldmine of information on how to keep setting out our desires and achieving them, creating abundance in ways beyond the purely financial. There is no limit to what you can achieve when you follow these 5 steps.
Step 1 - create a good affirmation. This is one that is believable and gets your creative and imaginative juices running. Don't rush off way out of your comfort zone lest you get discouraged when there are no results for a long time. You can always make another one later anyway, so go easy and take small steps to begin with. Make sure you get some feelings behind it, which may be feelings of safety and security, feeling alive, humming with excitement, a warm glow in your heart. These are the real drivers of the show, so take your time and gather together as many as you can.
If you notice those feelings flicker and die, thats ok because it just means its time to go onto Step 2. Youre not ready to hold those feelings permanently yet.
Remember a good affirmation is stated in the present tense. I like to start off with "I easily, consistently and joyfully ............" or "I safely and easily ........."
Some people create visual images in their minds eye, whilst others find that creating a vision board containing magazine pictures, words and photos does it for them.
Step 2 - note the tail enders. This involves focus and awareness. This is also where a coach is incredibly useful, because he or she won't see the writing on your walls. They can help you challenge more beliefs. Tail enders can be thoughts or feelings, or sometimes just an uncomfortable bodily sensation with no identification. You may have already noticed quite a few coming up just doing Step 1
So just stop and switch focus to what you are feeling and do a little tapping for whats there.
Even though I think this is going to be a waste of time
Even though that works for other people its just not going to work for me
Even though a part of me wants to dream about wonderful things, theres also this other part that doesnt want to do this and nobody can make me.
Even though Im afraid of the disappointment of failing again so Id rather not get too hyped up at this stage just in case
Even though it doesnt feel safe to have any desires because I know whats happened to me in the past and I dont want to go there again.
Even though it feels like such a good idea now, I know I wont be able to keep it up for long.
Step 3 - use the basic EFT techniques for eliminating or transforming those beliefs. This may involve healing past traumas or events, self-forgiveness, or just realising the ridiculousness of a particular belief when you come to tap on it. e.g. "it's going to take forever to get to the end of my tail enders - there must be so many of them" - and why must that be true? Ha Ha!
Step 4 - install the affirmation as a new belief by tapping the EFT points, and maybe you will find you are now holding the feelings it inspires in you longer and longer each time you do so.
Step 5 - Live the life of your dreams. No explanation needed but it will take some changing your habits and routines. Just go gently and notice how differently you feel if you live today as though you had the abundance you desire. That doesnt mean you should go out and blow thousands of dollars on something you cannot afford right now; it means live in the feeling of living the life of your dreams. Notice where your focus drifts off to, and just gently guide it back again and again to the affirmation.
Step 6 Give gratitude daily for all your abundance. Now this is where a lot of people find it really hard work. Gratitude is like a muscle that you havent used in ages. You hardly even know where to find it. So try starting with something really easy, so easy that its usually overlooked. The food on your table and in your cupboards; the clean water in your taps; the roof over your head; the nice furnishings; the sun shining a little today; the computer youre using to read this article; the people who share their experience and knowledge so freely; friends, neighbours, family - oops! As soon as you notice that gratitude feeling start to slip, go back to step 2 because it means youve discovered yet another tail ender.
Keep a gratitude journal if you like that sort of thing. It does help on the days when it feels as though you have nothing to be grateful for at all, because you can refer to previous days for inspiration, and be grateful that on that day you had something to feel grateful about!
If you are of a certain age and above, you may remember this line from Julie Andrewss song:-
I simply remember my favourite things, and then I dont feel so bad.
